Comments on: Dominant Doms Dominating with Dominance (of Doom)

By: | Kink Unleashed

| Kink Unleashed — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 02:28:53 +0000

[...] or “Dom”. And strangely enough, just as I was pondering this, I noticed roo-roo talks about it in his most recent post. As usual, he makes good, sensible points, so you might want [...]

By: Elle

Elle — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 23:28:00 +0000

That’s funny, because in French, you wouldn’t pronounce the e at the end of “Domme”, so where the hell does “dom-MAY” come from? It’s just the “o” that would take on a different sound: imagine the word “some” but replace the S with a D

I do write it “Domme”, when I write it at all, although sometimes I’ll write Dom. I’m not consistent in this. I think it’s the French ingrained in me that makes me feminize it, as the French give a gender to every word.

By: pureliquidkink

pureliquidkink — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 15:57:18 +0000

That’s true. Labels are double-edged- they’re useful as a brief way of explaining something, but they also come with lots of connotations and assumptions which may or may not be true.

By: Lady Julia

Lady Julia — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 20:39:16 +0000

“To each her own” is pretty my view on this. You mention one of the reasons that I like it – it has an elegant feel. I pronounce it the same way “Dom” is pronounced, though.

Even though I use them as a springboard in the online world to help with identifying who I am and who I am speaking about, I don’t really like labels as automatically they’re accompanied by a whole set of uber concrete “you have to do this and be this way if you use this label” conditions in a lot of people’s minds. I suppose it depends on the open-mindedness of the reader as to how effective they are.