Yet Another Femdom Myth

I frequently see people online saying things like, “If you want to play, you have to offer the dom something of value, whether it’s services, money, or a gift.” How about stepping away from the crack pipe a minute and looking for the logic in that statement?

First off, it assumes that play isn’t anything of value. This feeds into the wildly popular internet myth of submissive men outnumbering dominant women by 100-to-1. (Online, that may be true. In the real world, it’s not.) The fact is that submissive men are worth something. So is our effort, our time, and our pain. There are people out there who appreciate these things.

That way of thinking also assumes that she won’t be enjoying it. If that’s the case, then yes, you’ll need to offer something in exchange for her doing something she doesn’t want to do. But I’m going to let you in on a little secret. There are people out there called “sadists”. They actually enjoy bdsm. They don’t need to be paid off in any way. They like to inflict pain or erotic humiliation. It’s pleasurable for them to do so. This means there’s no need for anything to change hands. It’s a mutually beneficial experience. Both people get something out of it. There’s no need for payment in a situation like that.

When you pay a domme in any way for playing, she becomes a pro-domme. Is that the type of relationship you want? If so, go for it. Or would you prefer playing with someone who is more of a regular friend or lover?

There’s no need for bribery. Women who enjoy playing are out there.

7 Responses to “Yet Another Femdom Myth”

  1. Stabbity Says:

    Yay, someone who gets it! Entirely too many people think women don’t actually have desires of our own. The idea that we have to be bribed to play with someone because we couldn’t possibly just like doing it is a huge pet peeve of mine.

  2. pureliquidkink Says:

    The media is partially to blame for that. Their portrayals of dominant women are usually along the lines of pros, or at least arrogant assbuckets. This perpetuates the fallacy that women only do this for the gratification of men. And so lots of self-proclaimed feminists are against it. In reality, it’s a step in the right direction; women being free to explore and live their own fantasies is a good thing. I never thought I’d see feminists trying to suppress womens’ sexualities.

    And the groveling internet wankers aren’t helping either. They fall all over themselves to get any kind of attention from anybody vaguely female, bribing them in the desperate hopes of getting even a little nibble of bdsm.

  3. Elle Says:

    You mean I could get moneh out of this? 😛

  4. pureliquidkink Says:

    Or as all Real True Dommes™ say, “tribute”. Or “gifts”.

  5. Elle Says:

    Oh. I must learn the lingo.

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  7. Elle Says:

    lol!!!

    You crack me up 😀


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