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Last night, I ran down the hallway of a hotel.
Naked.
With four women who were also naked and screaming, “I’M NAKED!!!”
We hit three long hallways. People poked their heads out of their rooms, some cheered us on, others hollered for us to come back around and do it again.
I should mention this was at a bdsm event, so no ‘nillabeans were harmed in the making of this naked stampede.
I’m all for learning lessons from the past. If I (or others) can benefit from someone else’s experience and mistakes, that’s definitely a good thing. But I fail to see the sense in clinging to tradition. Why should I structure my relationships a certain way or restrict myself in some way just because others have done it in the past? How exactly does this benefit anyone? I see no sense in playing follow-the-leader, especially when the “leaders” aren’t living their relationships in a way that I’d like to.
That’s not to say that there’s nothing of value to be learned from others’ experiences. There is. Still, learning from what they’ve done is a lot different than trying to mimic their attitudes, beliefs, ways, and values. You can learn from the past without getting rid of your individuality. But when you try to replicate others’ experiences and adopt their beliefs rather than doing things your own way, you do so at the expense of your own identity.
I (and many others) broke away from the “normal” or vanilla way of doing things in order to be involved with bdsm. I decided that I have no reason to be restricted by their arbitrary rules. So why should I adopt another set of rules that I don’t agree with? Isn’t that just trading one inconvenience for another? I’d much rather be true to who I am without having to worry about whether I’m acting and thinking in a way that will be approved of by the bdsm tribunal.
I finally got the replacement for the shirt that tried to kill me. (There was a mix-up in the warehouse which delayed my exchange. Grr.)
It fits well, and I can actually remove it without using a crowbar. Definitely a plus. And just in time for COPE too. I can remove this one with minimal effort, so I don’t have to make a spectacle of myself when getting ready to play. Much goodliness.
