Technology – Now With 50% More Grr!

People have me worried.  At more and more social events, it’s common to see people sitting around, ignoring each other, typing on their phones.  I’m seeing it much more frequently at munches and vanilla get-togethers.  At one point, I was in a room with four other people, all friends who knew each other, all of whom were simultaneously texting or e-mailing on their phones.  A thick silence hung in the air, stale and humid.  Another friend spent half an hour (I timed her) at a munch typing away on her phone, only talking to people when they asked her a direct question.  It makes me wonder why they even show up at social events if they’re not going to interact with those around them. I’ve got no problem with someone texting occasionally, taking a phone call, or getting on Twitter periodically, but when the majority of their time is spent doing that, it’s excessive.

Where is this going to go?  I doubt it’ll get to the point where in-person events will be a thing of the past.  But all these portable devices to constantly link us to each other are a historically new thing, and society is dealing with the etiquette issues that come with them.

It’s unfortunately common to see people to distracted to enjoy the experiences around them.  If something happens, they’re too busy filming it, taking pictures, and tweeting about it to actually experience whatever it may be.  Why not step away from the screen for a while and live life?

I’d written previously about how people are often afraid to hear their own thoughts, so they drown them out with noise.  Is this something similar?  Are people so adamant about avoiding occasional bursts of silence that they have to reach for some sort of device immediately when there’s a lull in conversation?  Or is it simply that attention spans are growing shorter?  Either way, it’ll be interesting to see how this plays out in the years to come.

One of my friends doesn’t have a cell phone, just a home phone.  I’m beginning to see the wisdom in that.

New Munch and Gayness

Yesterday I went to a femdom munch with a friend.  It’s a relatively new group, and they’ve only had a few munches so far.  This had the largest attendance of any yet, with about 12-15 people total.  Not bad for a new group.  It was in a city about three hours away, and I rode out with a friend from the local bdsm scene.  It was a fun time, and it was refreshing to go to a new event outside of the local community.  The people there were all really down-to-earth types.  After the munch, most of us took a walk down the street to a couple stores; one was very bdsm-oriented, and the other was a typical sex shop.  That was a fun way to spend the afternoon.  This group has parties as well, though I won’t be able to make it to the one coming up soon.  I do intend to go back for more munches and/or parties though.

The munch was held in the private room in a bar/restaurant.  When we arrived, my friend and I were the first ones there, so we waited at the bar.  After being there less than a minute, some guy came up and started hitting on me.  (This wasn’t a gay bar either.)  This is a pattern for me; guys try to pick me up sometimes, and I have yet to figure out why.  I asked a gay friend about this a couple months ago, and he said I wasn’t sending out any vibes or unintended signals.  Oh well.  Anytime someone hits on me, I take it as a compliment, even if I play for the other team.

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I’ll be going to a munch with a friend in about a week.  It’s a few hours away, but it should be a fun time.  It’s a femdom group which was recently formed.  They’ve only had a few munches and a party or two so far.  I’m looking forward to that. Although it just started up, it seems to have strong attendance so far.  Plenty of people in this group will be at COPE as well, so I’ll know more people there this time.

The local dungeon situation is slowly progressing.  The equipment is still in storage, but things are coming together.  The legal stuff is taking the longest; there’s a lot more involved with this than any of us expected.  But when things finally materialize, it’ll be well worth it.  When we had a dungeon here, it was the hub of the bdsm community.  Having that back will feel great.  Though since the demise of the last dungeon, all the munches and more vanilla outings have seen a spike in attendance, so that’s a plus.

I think I’m finally settling into being single.  I’ve been dating, playing, and living my life without any restrictions or obligations.  A relationship would be welcome, but I’m not looking too hard.  If it happens, it happens.  I’m not trying to force anything, just enjoying it as it comes.