A Preponderance of Pointless Paradigms

It’s pretty common to hear people in the femdom crowd talk about paradigms.  Some see themselves as a queen and a knight, an Amazon and her captive, a princess and her servant, etc.  Why the reliance on fictional imagery?  (Yes, royalty and knights did and do exist, but the reality is nothing like the storybook version they draw on.)

This all comes across as an elaborate role-play.  Why not just be yourself?  If you want to add in some role-playing now and then, go for it.  But to seriously identify with a fictional persona on a 24/7 basis strikes me as delusional.

It makes me wonder why this is so widespread in femdom yet nearly nonexistent in the maledom community.  Why do the majority of those in male-dominant relationships not feel the need to relate to people who have nothing to do with their lives?

3 Responses to “A Preponderance of Pointless Paradigms”

  1. Stabbity Says:

    That’s a really good question. I’ve been thinking about your post for a little while, and I think at least some of us are looking for a model of the sort of the way we want to relate to our subs. I don’t know that we’re so much looking to role-play a fictional persona as to develop a pattern language (to be terribly, terribly nerdy) for how we want to structure our relationships.

    That said, I have no idea why that’s a big thing with the femdom community while the maledom community doesn’t seem interested in at all.

  2. Stabbity Says:

    Doh! I meant ‘interested in *it* at all.

  3. princeedwardslave Says:

    my sense is because M/f is more in line with eroticizing traditional (if despicable) relationship dynamics while F/m is flipping that upside down….hence a need for some sort of bizzar-o model to follow or guide …???


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