Deities of Domliness

Welcome to another installment of “Things That Irritate the Fuck Out of Me”.  This week- dommes who call themselves “goddess”.

Are you immortal?  (If you’re not sure, I’ll gladly lend you any of my knives so you can find out.  Just let me clean my fingerprints off of them first.)  Do you have any magical powers?  No?  Then what makes you any better than the rest of humankind?  Is it your laughably inflated ego?  Hey, maybe your superpower is self-delusion.

Would anyone take male doms seriously if they referred to themselves as gods?  Or would people just laugh in their faces?

Being dominant does not make one a deity.  Just being yourself should be enough to make someone want to bow down to you.  Unless you’re a total piece of human garbage, in which case you may want to work on that.  You don’t need to construct some larger-than-life identity to reinforce your dominance.  If you want people to respect you, take the time to build that respect on a solid foundation; giving yourself a lofty title doesn’t guarantee respect.  Nor will it gain you anyone’s submission.  Those who submit bow to humans- people with scars, weaknesses, and faults.  And we love them passionately.

 

 

9 Responses to “Deities of Domliness”

  1. Stabbity Says:

    You keep getting to things I’m meaning to rant about before I do 🙂 Goddess is my least favourite title, it’s just so ridiculous. Personally, titles are only meaningful in the context of a negotiated relationship – if some random stranger calls me “Mistress” or “Lady” it’s just sounds, when my boyfriend calls me by the one title I care hear, it *matters*.

  2. pureliquidkink Says:

    @Stabbity-

    I get to them before you do because I’m stalking you. I have cameras and microphones hidden all throughout your place. I like that color on you, by the way.

    You’re right, it’s just meaningless syllables when a title is spoken by some random person. When I say a title, I mean it, so I can’t call someone by a title simply because *they* want it.

    The only exception for me is casual play. Some people want to be referred to by a basic title during a scene. Feels a little odd to me, but I can do it.

    I really enjoy poking people with titles. At one larger event I went to recently, they issued event name tags for everyone. I wanted to go with “His Majesty Sir Domly Dom McDomDom, the Domliest Dom to ever have Dommed”. But the character limit was 25, so I couldn’t get all pompous and lofty. Grr.

  3. Shadowlady Says:

    Oh yes. It annoys the *expletive* out of me. I think it is one of the most childish things you can do. To me those that have men refer to them a goddess have serious self esteem issues. Either totally inflated ego, or total insecurity. Hiding behind a label does not make it so.

    Mind you I personally feel the whole title thing is one of pompous posturing

  4. pureliquidkink Says:

    @Shadowlady- There is definitely a ton of pompous posturing in the bdsm world. And this is just one form of it. I try to steer clear of egos that large.

  5. Lily Says:

    I don’t call myself “goddess,” however, I have to say, I had a hell of a time finding an honorific that worked for me.

    “Sir” and “Master” — nope.

    “Mistress” reminded me of infidelity; “Miss,” too young, “Lady” seems to go along with an ultrafeminine presentation I don’t aspire to. Mine calls me “Boss,” (and in more tender private moments, “Daddy”).

  6. pureliquidkink Says:

    @Lily- I can see why that’d be a problem. Personally, I could see calling my Mistress “Master”, but that’s not for everyone. Titles are personal (at least they should be) and I’m glad you found a couple that work for you!

  7. ‘Domme’ at Not Just Bitchy Says:

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  8. Oliver Says:

    You keep getting to things I’m meaning to rant about before I do Goddess is my least favourite title, it’s just so ridiculous. Personally, titles are only meaningful in the context of a negotiated relationship – if some random stranger calls me “Mistress” or “Lady” it’s just sounds, when my boyfriend calls me by the one title I care hear, it *matters*.
    +1

  9. ‘Domme’ » Not Just Bitchy Says:

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