Individual growth and change is part of what we do. Our interests/fetishes change over time and often become more intense. Likewise, the collective interests of the bdsm community as a whole change over time. I’ve seen certain forms of play become trendy and incredibly popular, only to later disappear from sight altogether or slowly fade into one small corner of the toybag.
Cell popping is one that was very popular locally a few years back, and it seemed there was a workshop on that every other month. Everyone wanted to try it, and people who did it attained near celebrity status at parties. Within six months, the fervor had dissipated; now, a few years later, half the people out there don’t even know what cell popping is.
Knife play and cutting took a similar path. They were taboo for a long time when I first got involved in the community. Only one or two couples did it, and they rarely talked about it since it squicked lots of people out. But slowly it became more talk-about-able, and more people experimented. There were demos. Everyone wanted to try it. Over time, interest waned. Now, it’s just one more interest among many, and knife play doesn’t have legions of people who want to do it at every single party.
Breath play, watersports, and fire play went through similar rise-and-fall cycles. Littles play and rough body play have recently exploded onto the scene locally. Over half of these fetishes previously had a taboo status prior to their resurgence. People tend to latch on to the newest flavor of play, especially if it’s edgy in nature. When so many people suddenly become aware of it and develop a curiosity or interest in it, this “new” form of play becomes very visible. Everyone talks about it. You see it everywhere at parties. There are countless demos because there is demand for said demos. Over the years, these things slowly slide out of view until they’re just one more tool in the repertoire.
This makes me wonder what other now-taboo forms of play might one day enjoy this surge of popularity. Branding? Gun play? Making the sub eat other mens’ cum? Scat? Hook suspensions? Food play/wet-and-messy? Something else entirely? There’s really no way to know. There sometimes seems to be a competition among presenters at the larger events- Who can be more extreme and more shocking?
I do enjoy the fact that the community’s interests fluctuate rather than staying stagnant. My own interests fluctuate and grow more intense, so when the community mirrors that action, it makes me feel like I’ll have a home here for years (or decades) to come. The community can grow with me and teach me new things, just as I can help the community grow and learn.
I have a fetish for trying new things (which is why the perv list is a mile long.) I also have a fetish for being pushed hard in every form of play I do; I relish that the bdsm crowd embraces and helps with that.