Something has been puzzling me for a long time.
Why do they make those little packets of square, bright orange crackers? Fluorescent orange is not a natural color for a cracker to be.
But also, something more BDSM-related has been puzzling me too.
I have a thing for scent. For example, foot worship is always sexy, but doing it after she’s been in boots or shoes all day is ten times hotter. For me it seems to trigger something on a more primal level. My libido kicks into overdrive. (Which is also hellaciously frustrating when I’m in chastity.) Foot worship, the various smells of sex, the scent of leather, armpit licking… They all drive me up a wall. Maybe it’s a pheromone thing. Or maybe, at least for the foot and armpit licking, there’s a certain humiliation edge there.
A friend who is involved both in the local BDSM community as well as the gay Leather community recently verified something I’d been hearing for years: Scent is also big among the gay Leather crowd. It’s actually pretty heavily fetishized there. They embrace various levels of musk. They revel in sweat. (Obviously this isn’t true for every single leatherman out there, but as a whole it’s more true than not.) They don’t try to cover it up. A Leather convention can be a rather intense olfactory experience.
So why isn’t that the case in the rest of the BDSM community? Why is scent such an abhorrent thing here? Is it simply social conditioning? We’re bombarded with the idea that all the various body odors are repulsive and should be washed away, covered up. Is it really that simple? Or are there other layers of possibility?
Going to a munch, it’s understandable that most people will attempt to be odor-free or pleasant-smelling. However in a more sexual/play-oriented atmosphere, like a play party, I’m surprised that scent doesn’t come into play for most people. We use all the other senses in some way, so why not smell? Sight is on overload at parties with all the sexy leather, latex, heels, lingerie, and nekkidity. There are a ton of ways to stimulate touch, from sensual to painful. For taste, there’s boot worship with the taste of leather, washing a sub’s mouth out with a bar of soap, or piss play. On the auditory end of things, there’s the sound the cane makes as it cuts the air, the sound of heels clicking on the floor, or the moans and laughter of people playing. But what about scent? Apart from the occasional whiff of leather, there’s not much to stimulate that sense in this environment.
Scent is subjective. In the context of a party, people can mostly agree on what constitutes sexy when it comes to the other senses. But scent is far more disparate. A scent that gets one person worked up might make another walk quickly out of the room. This is one reason I think most scent-based forms of play don’t happen during public play. Those who do practice it often seem to do it privately. But since it’s not talked about, how common is it?